De Facto Dominants

Opinion piece: Submissives and masochists in BDSM are just as worthy to be treated with respect as are dominants and sadists. There are no de-facto Dominants. Yet, in the scene, dominants often expect all submissives to act as if they had actually already accepted them as their dominants. Submissives and dominants let’s stop this nonsense now.

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Sex Games

Sex games create sexual tension that grows as you play the game. It is that build-up of sexual tension that is guaranteed to explode into passion and some very, very hot sex, and that is what makes playing these games so potent and ultimately rewarding!

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Solving the “Problem-Solving” Problem

Solving the “Problem-Solving” Problem: Problem solving and Sex! About fifteen years ago, the book, “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray attempted to popularize the concept that males and females were fundamentally different in their communication styles – as fundamentally different as if they were from separate planets. While I contend that both sexes are TRULY from the very same planet, there is a grain of truth that for either sex the role of problem solver is sometimes taken up – to the point of pushing aside all other ways of being involved in the relationship. How do we solve THAT problem?

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The Endorphin Levels in BDSM

Although everyone into the BDSM scene has heard of endorphins, actually very, very few people really understand what they are, how they work, what the “high” is all about and how one can correctly induce the body to produce them. This short primer will answer those questions, and serve as a guide for anyone topping another so that they may successfully send their bottom into a very deep endorphin stupor (also known as leaving them in a big puddle of quivering ecstasy)!

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Pump Tips

By far, using a pump is the safest method to achieve a firm, full erection, especially for anyone with medical conditions such as diabetes or high blood pressure who cannot take the various drugs available (by prescription or herbal supplement). The increased sensitivity – and firmness possibly not seen since age 17 – make pump use a great addition to either lovemaking or to self-play activities.

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