Cunnilingus: How to Perform an Oral Exam That Can Give Her Great Pleasure

There’s a saying about cake: When cake is done right, it’s delicious; when it’s done wrong, it’s still pretty great.

Cunnilingus is not like cake.

Women exchange tales about great cunnilingus experiences, but the stories they tell most often are the other ones: the ones that weren’t so great, or downright terrible.

Here are a few tips to keep you from becoming story fodder:

  1. Learn the area. If you want to perform oral sex on a woman, a basic understanding of her anatomy is necessary. Thanks to the internet, there is no excuse for not knowing where the clitoris is. Find a labeled image online or in a book and learn the basics.
  2. Pay attention to the clitoral hood. The actual clitoris is a tiny nub, and  many women are simply too sensitive to withstand much direct attention there. On the other hand, the clitoral hood loves stimulation, so focus your attentions there.
  3. But there’s more down there than the clit. Pay lots of attention to the rest of the areas. The labia and surrounding regions, the inner thighs, the perineum (the area between the vagina and the anus), and up to several inches above the clitoral region are all very sensitive.
  4. Avoid abrasion. Leave the teeth out of your oral pleasuring. Also, sorry Lumbersexuals, but beards can be too abrasive for some of the sensitive skin areas there. Check with your lady about whether your facial hair meets her approval.
  5. Be gentle. Most men move too roughly around the one area of female anatomy that should be treated with the utmost care.
  6. Consider a manicure.  If using fingers along with mouth and tongue, make sure your fingernails are trimmed short and filed smooth, with no rough spots or edges to tear the delicate skin. If short nails are not an option, consider wearing a latex (or non-latex) glove, or cover the finger with a condom.
  7. Go (not so) deep. The most sensitive area inside most women is about 1-1/2 inches inside. A tongue or fingers inserted just that far, wriggled or moved in a gentle jabbing motion is generally very, very pleasurable.
  8. Ask for directions. Encourage your partner to tell you what feels good, and remember it for future use. Every woman is different and what drives one wild may annoy another.

These guidelines should help amp-up any partner’s skills. Communication is very important, so when in doubt, ask for feedback.