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Imagine my chagrin when I learned recently that the older one becomes, the less frequently they should have an "ejaculatory orgasm" - or one where they have an ejaculation. This just doesn't seem fair!
Apparently, the amount and number of physical resources that the male body uses up to have an ejaculation is truly enormous. After all, the body is marshalling all of its resources to procreate. The whole life-perpetuating system is geared towards putting out as much energy as is available in order to ensure the continuation of the human species. So, the act of "cumming" is amazingly resource-intensive.
As we age, we replace these exhausted resources more slowly than we do when we are younger. (Well, I admit to feeling a little exhausted afterwards sometimes... but I thought that was just that little chemical the body injects me with afterwards to make me lose interest and fall asleep!) The facts are, if we ejaculate too frequently at an older age, we are stealing away resources (energy, vitamins and minerals, neurotransmitters, etc.) that we need just to get by day-to-day, and so we can endanger our own health from too-frequent climaxes that result in an ejaculation. This becomes more true the older one gets ... even if taking over-50 vitamin formulas!!! Bummer.
The solution, according to some posts over at the Aneros website, is to discover other kinds of orgasm besides the "old-faithful" ejaculation orgasm. The discovery of the "male G-spot" near the prostate area and the full-body orgasms they can bring on have opened up new vistas of possibilities for many, many men.
Also, some writers are suggesting we treat the entire experience as a prolonged state of orgasm, from the moment of being "turned on" to the complete, utter, quivering jelly states of exhaustion that are likely rather inevitable after five or six full-body orgasms!
Well, I certainly hope so! I'm not growing older and more open minded just to be told I should only "do it" and have so much wonderful fun far less often!!! Shucks no!!!
I'm looking at it this way - the older I get, the richer and deeper the experience becomes, with more depth and breadth, more intensity in the focus on each moment, and more open to the possibility of multiple orgasms, which were previously only considered mythical entities for males. That is, I'm having much better sex nowadays than I had when I was younger, thank you!