Welcome to the Choosing a Toy Guide series. We recommend reading Choosing a Toy Guide – The Basics first. It provides general information about all types of toys.
When most people think of a sex toy, they usually imagine an insertable vibrator. This style is the most common, popular, and available in a wide range of sizes, shapes, colors, materials, and textures.
Things to consider:
- Just because a toy can be inserted doesn’t mean it has to be. Lots of pleasure can be had just by moving it across the labia and clitoral area.
- Thickness can be more important than length. The vagina has a lot of nerve endings in the first 1″ to 2″ but relatively few after that. Some women who want that full feeling can get it with a short but thick toy.
- Length may not always be important . . . but sometimes it is. Some women really enjoy the feeling of something bumping up against the cervix, while others find it quite uncomfortable.
- Do you like it hard or soft? We mean your toy, of course. Glass, metal, and plastic toys are all firm to the touch, while silicone, jelly, rubber and other materials feel soft and squishy. Each material has its pros and cons and many women develop a preference for one material over another.
- Smooth, rippled, or with bumps? Vibrators give pleasure not only through the vibrations they produce but also from the sensation of being stroked in and out. Some people like a smooth surface while others prefer bumps or ripples on the shaft.
- Some of these toys also belong in the G-spot category because they have an angled or curved tip. Go to the G-spot page for more information about them.
The best way to discover what you like is to experiment. We suggest buying a few less-expensive toys as a way to learn what you like, then invest in toys with more features and better materials.