Shopping Tips for Erotic Gifts

The holidays are quickly approaching, and what better way to express your affections for your sweetie than a sexy gift? Here are some tips and tricks to make shopping for sexy holiday gifts hassle-free.

Tip #1: Examine what they already have (and use).

Before hitting the store, do a little reconnaissance. Look through the toy chest to see what sort of toys she already has. Look at the toys’ designs. Does it have a hard texture or is it soft and squishy? Does it have lots of vibration patterns, or one strong steady speed? How big is it?  If one toy in the toy chest gets used almost exclusively, that’s a good indication of the person’s preferences.

If your partner doesn’t have any toys yet, think about what your sweetie does like. Does she like clitoral stimulation, or is g-spot attention a bigger turn-on? Does he like prostate play? Has he talked about trying a cock ring? These details will help you pick something with features your partner will love.

If lingerie is what you had in mind, start with what your partner already owns and likes to wear. What parts of her body does it enhance (or hide)? For example, if everything she owns has sleeves, that’s a hint that she doesn’t like to show off her arms, so buying her something sleeveless might not be a great idea. But, if your boyfriend has a drawer full of backside-enhancing booty shorts, an outfit that shows off his rear is the way to go.

Tip #2: Write down sizes.

Look at the tags in your sweetie’s underwear, favorite pair of pants, t-shirts, and bra if applicable. Write down the sizes you find there, and how tall your sweetie is. If you don’t know the height measurement, know how tall s/he is in comparison to you; that’s a starting place. Bring those measurements with you to the store. Sales clerks can use them to help you find styles and sizes to fit.

Many lingerie styles are stretch-to-fit or cut in a way to accommodate a variety of body shapes, Some have height and weight measurements on the back. With stretch-to-fit styles, it can be pretty easy to find something that will fit.

However, corsets have to be fitted on the person to make sure they fit correctly. Instead, give your lover a pretty wrapped box containing a certificate for a corset fitting. That way she has something to unwrap, and gets a gift that she knows will fit her just right!

Tip #3: Bring the link.

With smartphones, people can stand in a store, pull up the website where they saw an item they want, and ask a sales clerk, “Do you have this?”  If you found something in your online hunting, save the link on your phone, take a screen shot, or print out the photo and specs and bring it with you to show a clerk. That makes finding the item much easier, and if the store doesn’t have that exact item, the staff may know of an item with similar features (or better ones).

Tip #4: Ask for help.

You might do your shopping at the great local adult store. You might shop for erotic gifts exclusively online. You might have a truly loyal friend who will go to the adult store as your personal shopper while you instruct her by phone about what you want. Whatever shopping method you choose, ask questions about products and enlist a salesperson’s aid if you need it. Like any other store, the clerks have training and product knowledge that they are happy to share with you.

If shopping online, sites usually list contact information to send questions by phone or e-mail.  If shopping in a brick-and-mortar store, many have clerks who are happy to take items out of the package for closer examination (but please don’t open packages yourself). Frisky Business Boutique also has tons of demo models out for our customers to peruse in store.

Tip #5: When in doubt, keep it simple.

Sometimes you just don’t know what to get. If choosing lingerie or toys is overwhelming, keep your sexy gift simple. Pick one or two small things as stocking stuffers, like flavored lubricant, a game, a vibrating cock ring, or a coupon book of erotic activities. Try a gift box with a variety of things, or build your own.

Tip #6: It’s the (sexy) thought that counts.

“What if my sweetie doesn’t like it?” is a frequently-voiced fear when it comes to erotic gift-giving, but it really is the thought that counts with sexy presents. You’re expressing your desire for the recipient through a gift that says, “I want to give you pleasure, see you naked, and have fun with you.” Don’t stress about it being the perfect gift. Instead, focus on a gift that might bring a pleasurable experience for both of you.

With a little planning, shopping for an erotic present might be the easiest thing you do this holiday season!