Solving the “Problem-Solving” Problem

Solving the “Problem-Solving” Problem: Problem solving and Sex! About fifteen years ago, the book, “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray attempted to popularize the concept that males and females were fundamentally different in their communication styles – as fundamentally different as if they were from separate planets. While I contend that both sexes are TRULY from the very same planet, there is a grain of truth that for either sex the role of problem solver is sometimes taken up – to the point of pushing aside all other ways of being involved in the relationship. How do we solve THAT problem?

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BDSM and Consent – The Submissive’s Bill of Rights

In BDSM, the topic of consent is a hot and important issue. Dominants and submissives, tops and bottoms, and the bound and their binders rely upon the pact of consent between them – a pact that is built upon immense trust. Some method must be employed to keep the BDSM play safe and generally sane. Any BDSM activity performed without such consent is considered abuse by the BDSM community as a whole. Read on for interesting methods you can employ to ensure your play time is always an enjoyable activity!

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