I often wonder why people try to use a flogger on people’s butts. It is very hard to do, especially if the person is standing. That’s BDSM the hard way! I say: flog backs; paddle bottoms; use slappers, crops and other implements everywhere else. Everyone concerned will be saying, “How can we lose with the system we use!”
Many people observe the sadomasochistic side of BDSM with little or no understanding of exactly how it works. Why would someone want to experience pain? Why would someone else feel pleasure by inflicting pain on another person? If I derive pleasure from physically hurting someone else, does that make me a bad person? Very good questions, and there are equally good answers to this often-misunderstood aspect of the BDSM lifestyle.
The Cane – A VERY Advanced Tool! This is not a tutorial. The cane is the most advanced toy in a top’s arsenal. The cane is not something you can use properly and responsibly without receiving training—not without causing bruising or injury to the person being caned—and they certainly are not as easy to use as, say, a flogger, slapper or paddle.
How to Correctly Use A Flogger is about just that: the flogger basics of stance, attitude, movement and accuracy. Learn how to get this flogging thing right to get the most out of the experience without wearing yourself out.
Sadists and masochists? S&M? Why do some people get pleasure from experiencing pain, or inflicting it on others?